Understanding Someone Else – “If I Were You…”

This PET is a way to promote mutual understanding between the people – not agreement.  It helps people look at the world through another’s eyes.  This helps them suspend their own point of view and gain new insights.
  • To promote mutual understanding between people.
  • To help people see another’s point of view.

Do the following:
    • Have the attendees choose a statement beginning with, “If I were you…” such as, “If I were you, my main goals would be…”
    • Write each person’s name on 2 slips of paper and put all the slips of paper into a bag, box, etc.
    • Have each person draw out 2 slips of paper (not his or her own) so that each person has the names of 2 different people.
    • Give everyone a turn being the focus person.  Note: When someone is the focus person, the 2 people who have that person’s name will take 3 minutes each to say to him or her, “If I were you…”
    • After listening, the focus person has 3 minutes to respond.
  • When everyone has had a turn, ask the people to share any insights they gained from the statements or from the responses.
Debriefing Questions:
  • “How did you feel when you were the focus person?”
  • “How did you feel when you were speaking to the focus person?”
  • “What insights did you gain from the statements?  From the responses?”

Author: Gary Rush

Gary Rush, IAF CPF is Founder & CEO of MGR Consulting since 1985 becoming a leading facilitator and facilitator trainer creating his own facilitation technique - FAST revolutionizing it with FoCuSeD™ - a unique approach to structured facilitation transforming the facilitation industry. He has trained thousands of people from more than 18 countries, and has delivered his structured facilitation class in 8 countries within North America, Europe, Asia, and Africa. His students have gone on to become CEOs and CIOs, crediting their success to the people and process skills gained in his facilitator training classes. He has written numerous “how to” books covering facilitation, collaborative leadership, strategic planning, data modeling, etc. During a hiatus from consulting, Gary owned and was "Chef" of a highly acclaimed restaurant in Old San Juan, Puerto Rico – MG Rush dba Mirácles Restaurant. Gary has facilitated significant workshops including the first strategic plan for the combined EDS/GM organization. He facilitated Star Alliance where they identified that in-flight Wi-Fi was possible – a critical service offering on airlines today. He facilitated and trained Texas Joint Military Forces in Strategic Planning, creating their 2035 Strategic Plan. Reviewing this 4-page plan, the length of the U.S. Constitution, is now part of their monthly meetings – something they were unable to do previously. He is an IAF CPF Assessor and former IAF Chair. Gary also formed and led the IAF Chicago Chapter, the second IAF chapter to be established in the U.S. He attended the U.S. Naval Academy in Annapolis. He holds a BS from Excelsior College.

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